09 Mar Coaching – Frequently Asked Questions
You may have quite a clear idea about what coaching is, or you may know nothing about it. Whatever your case is, I think you will find something interesting here.
What are some typical coaching issues?
- I have a big goal and I want someone to support me.
- I have lots of great plans but can’t quite implement all of them.
- I’m starting my own business and feel overwhelmed by everything I have to do.
- I am overworked/stressed.
- I’m thinking about changing my career and want to explore what’s possible.
- I’ve lost motivation and clarity of direction needed to give my career a lift.
- I have an issue at work (a task I do not know how to manage, something’s wrong with my team, boss doesn’t listen/understand etc.)
- I think I want to make a change but not sure what kind of change.
- I’m stuck – I’m not moving forward –and don’t know what to do next.
- Life feels flat. I can’t say what’s exactly wrong but I know something’s missing.
- I want to regain a greater sense of meaning in my work and life.
- Individual issues vary greatly. Whatever the individual situation, people come to coaching when the desire builds up within them – desire to shine.
What is coaching?
Coaching is a relationship with a highly skilled and trained professional who works with you as a personal partner. Coaching is directed towards the achievement of extraordinary results by you. It’s about unlocking your potential to reach important objectives.
What is the basic philosophy of coaching?
You as a person are creative, resourceful and capable of having a life and a career you truly deserve.
You can get what you want a lot faster and easier by teaming up with a coach.
What do I gain from coaching?
In coaching we focus on both doing and being.
At doing level, you will:
- Clarify your goals
- Schedule your actions and carry them out
- Achieve meaningful, important results
- Fulfil your dreams
- Succeed more readily at work and in life
At being level, you take away gains that make your life qualitatively better now and in the future:
- Better self-awareness and self-reflection
- Being in charge/responsible
- Enhanced self-confidence and self reliance
- Enhanced performance
- Better decision-making skills
- Higher motivation and commitment
- Better leadership skills
- Higher quality of life/work-life balance
- Clarity in purpose and meaning
- Improved communication and relationships
- Sustainable personal growth and lasting self-coaching skills
What is the difference between coaching and other professions?
Let’s consider an example: you want to learn how to ride a bicycle.
- Therapist will explore what is stopping you from riding a bicycle. Coach will focus on what your strengths are and make sure you use them in riding the bicycle.
- Mentor will share tips from his or her own experience of riding bicycles. Coach will assist you in the process of putting them in practice.
- Consultant will advise you on how to ride a bicycle. Coach will assure you follow through and will encourage and support you in actually riding a bicycle.
Does the coach work on personal or professional goals?
In coaching we believe that personal and professional issues definitely influence each other. Coaches are trained to work professionally with all aspects of life.
Can I hire a coach just for a short-term, special project?
Absolutely. Many people seek coaching to get help in accomplishing specific goals or projects.
Often, their goals evolve as they move further into the process and discover that much more than they thought is possible. Also, many continuing to work with a coach as new goals and projects come up as a result of their current successes.
Why does coaching work so well?
Your overall effectiveness increases as you stay focused, stay in action and are held accountable by your coach.
Your coach has tools to make you accomplish things in easier ways.
What happens when you hire a coach?
- You take yourself more seriously and gain impulse in your activities.
- You take more effective and focused actions – immediately.
- You stop putting up with energy drains and get results with less effort.
- You set goals that are truly impacting on where you most want to grow.
How long is the usual starting commitment when working with a coach?
A three to six month commitment is usual for coaches to request from their new coachees. Most coaches let their clients stop immediately if for whatever reason coaching is not working for them right now.
How do I get started?
You can contact a coach anywhere in the world (all coaches work by telephone/Skype) and ask for interview coaching session. Most coaches offer these sessions at no or minimal cost to assure that coaching is right for you.
How to choose a coach?
Coaching, above all, is a relationship. Right connection between you and your coach is essential.
Consider coach’s personality – the coach needs to be a person who: sincerely values and cares about others; is open, honest and capable of building an effective relationship; is self-confident and thus able to work with you through difficult challenges; is credible based on her/his maturity, intelligence and experience.
Consider coach’s qualification/expertise – make sure the coach has coach-specific training in an ICF (International Coach Federation) approved training programme.
How can I know I’m ready for coaching?
You are highly, it’s a good moment to get a coach, and you will benefit a lot from coaching if several of the following statements are true:
You know/believe that:
- You have unrealised potential.
- You’re capable of having a life and career you truly deserve.
- You have a real desire for change.
You are open to:
- Doing things in new and better ways.
- Discovering more about yourself.
- Contributions and collaboration of others and new perspectives.
You are prepared to:
- Tackle some tough issues to get to where you want to be.
- Take the lead on issues that are important to you.
- Work outside your comfort zone.
You are committed to:
- Being honest during the coaching – say what is really true for you.
- Devoting the time needed to make it work; doing homework and being prepared.
- Making the investment in your future.
It’s also helpful to be aware of different stages we go through on our way to a change:
- Pre-awareness – at this stage we have no intention of changing and frequently don’t even perceive that there’s an issue (or prefer not to perceive it).
- Awareness – we are aware of the issue. We think about doing something – this stage can last for years (as we all know).
- Action – we are committed to a change and take an action.
What about people who are already doing great in their lives – why would they want a coach?
There are people who are already doing what they most enjoy. They are not tolerating anything. Their life is effortless. They spend enough time with their family and friends. They are on their way to being financially independent. Their emotional life is great.
The truth is, even these people want to expect more out of their lives. They usually want to venture into new areas.
Another truth is, most of the highly successful people already have coaches who helped them get there – from Bill Gates to the founders of Google, from Tiger Woods to Rafa Nadal.